WildPhlower is dedicated & passionate about breaking generational curses through self love & self care. We offer our very 1st official season of Breaking Generational Curses titled 'Darkside of Healing'.
Often times we hear about the lighter side of healing. This season brings viewers on a journey of facing the hurt, the loneliness, self-guilt, etc. that comes along with healing.
One of the biggest LIES we tell ourselves is that they don’t have enough time for self-love and self-care. We all have the same God-given 24 hours in a day. What we chose to do in those 24 hours is the deciding factor whether we are ready for growth or better in our lives.
Growth can begin with reclaiming a couple minutes a day for personal growth and development. We have 1440 minutes granted to us each day to do what we very well please. Statistically speaking, investing in education improves people's earning prospects and their ability to contribute to the economy. This directly impacts self-esteem and feelings of worthiness. There is a big misconception that individuals have to go to college to get educated. Education does not begin or end in a classroom, online or on campus. We just have to be willing and motivated to pick up a book that teaches us something we want to learn. Then once we have the book, schedule in time to actually use it. I’m not going to say find the time, because some of us can’t look for shit, lol. If we're asked to find 5 minutes within that pile of 1440 minutes we are given each day, some of us will swear it's impossible.
For anyone to believe that it is impossible to reclaim 5 of the 1440 minutes in our day for our own well-being, is only fooling themselves. Some of us can find hours to watch TV and hours to talk to/message/text others, but not one single one for self-Care. The thing about self-love & self-Care is that no one else can do it for us. Self-love and self-Care is a choice we have to make in the name of Well-being. Those who do not have time for wellness, will soon have time for illness.
Time is our most valuable asset we possess. Once it is wasted, we can not get it back or have a re-do. Life is not short, it’s a long hard road that ends sooner for some. So if you think like I use to think, then why even bother planning or caring about the future, right?! ....WRONG!! If you don’t plan for your future, it already have a plan for you. Granted, you may not like the outcome of the latter.
It all boils down to what we want out of life and what are we willing to let go in order to gain it. We have to find atleast 5 minutes in our day today & everyday for personal growth & development through self-love and self-Care. Create time for those healthy habits that make us feel good inside and out. Pick up a new book that can help you learn something new. Invest our most valuable asset, time, back into our love tanks. If you love to dance then dance, if you love to sing then sing, or simply relax and nothing. Whatever you do, Respect Yo 24!
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What do we do it all for? We get up, get dressed, and get on with our day because we are driven by motivation. To investigate this concept research will define motivation, uncover how motivation is expressed, as well as analyze the relationship between the brain, motivation, and behavior. Motivation is defined several ways in many different articles and books around the world, but at the root of them, all motivation directly affects behavior.
According to Reeve (2015), motivation is described as the reason individuals behave the way they do. It is also described as a concept that energizes and empowers individuals regarding better engagement, performance and well-being. Motivation is an innate process, that support an individual with energy and direction needed to interact with environment in an open, adaptive manner to problem solve. For example, motivation can be seen as the type of fuel one uses to fill up the tank of the car called ‘life’. If there is little motivation the car will not go far, as well as if it is the wrong type of fuel (motivation), it will cause problems with the car’s system and behavior. Because motivation is an innate process, it can be difficult to measure in others at times. We cannot often see another person’s motivation by just looking at them.
Reeve (2015) states two ways to understand motivation in another individual. Observation is the first way to understand another individual’s motivations. Researchers has investigated motivation so we are able to observe motivation through displays of behavior, psychophysiology, engagement, as well as brain activations. Close attention to ones precursors that intensify motivational conditions is a second way that we can understand another individual’s motivations. Precursor conditions involve external events and social contexts that directs motivations and emotions to rise or fall, states Reeve (2015). For example, a person that is fired from there job and feels that they have no one to turn to will display a different level of motivation than a newly hired individual, with a strong support system due to internal resources of stability.
Observing motivation through displays of behavior can highlight its intensity in an individuals actions and expression. An ambitious person takes initiative to reach goals, as well as sets a positive example for others can be seen as highly motivated. On the other hand, a person that shows little initiative and lacks ambition presents as low-intensity motivation. Obradonic (2012) infers that psychophysiology is the relationship between emotional functioning and the make-up involved in mental states. The activities of the hormones, heart, vision, electrodermal, and skeletal systems are all classified as five ways that our brains and our body express motivation and emotion.
This can be further broken down and explained as the communication between emotional and mental states which direct motivation. Engagement is another way that motivation can be expressed and observed. The level of involvement in an activity or situation from an individual signifies the level of engagement, which underlies motivation. For example, a student that rarely studies will show low engagement in school work and homework, as well as show a lack of motivation to actively engage in subject matter, which will lead to failing grades. High engagement of studying from a student will yield motivation to make good grades, as well as understand subject matter. Brain activations trigger motivation and emotional states through brain activity and the release of hormones to regulate the body’s systems.
Brain and Behavior related to Motivation
The brain communicates through neurotransmitters that send signals to instinctively release or withhold particular hormones from the brain, which plays a role in the regulation of behavior. Reeve (2015) investigates a motivated and emotional brain, which produce wants, needs, urges, desires, etc. that direct and guide behavior. Inner subcortical brain and the outer cortical brain compounds to make the motivated and emotional brain. Impulses, urges and emotion-rich motivations are chiefly unconscious and automatic. Fear, hunger, anger, anxiety, pleasure, and thirst are all examples and functions of the subcortical brain. Thought out rich motivations is deliberate and involve executive and rational control. Plans, goals, strategies, self-affirming beliefs, and values are all examples and function of the cortical brain.
Here the investigated the concept of motivation was defined, we identified how motivation expressed, as well as analyzed the relationship between the brain, motivation, and behavior. Motivation is the reason individuals behave the way they do and is expressed through behavior, engagement, psychophysiology, and brain activations. Lastly, the brain and behavior have a direct affect on motivation through the psychological and physiological processes that occur. Motivation is a complex concept that involves many moving parts to guide and mold behavior. The more aware of our behavior we can truly live a life of well-being.
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First off... welcome to our site for the very first time or welcome back for some more wellness brain candy! This month our efforts have been to dive into self-care and research how it ties to our overall quality of health. Self care is a whole person concept that involves the conscious attentiveness to meet the needs of our physical, mental, and emotional health. Self-care can be seen as a journey to improve one's quality of life. The nature of one's self-talk play a leading role in feelings of value and worthiness. Emotions are also an important factor in self-care due to the fact they help us understand ourselves and others. Lastly, we will touch upon the benefits of self-care and psychological well-being.
Self-love, or lack thereof, begins in early childhood and is developed and conditioned by learning over time. We take in information from all of our senses on how to treat ourselves and others based on heredity and environmental influences before we even learn how to read and write. Healthy coping with stress and life stressors increases room for self-love and ability to bounce back after stressful events. Self-love sometimes has to be a selfish act to initiate self-care in one's life! It is easy to get so caught up in being everything for everybody that we lose ourselves. We often add toxic stress to our daily lives by pouring from an empty cup. 'Pouring from an empty cup' simply means we give all our time, energy, and care to others in our lives, but forget about the love and attention we must give to our very own bodies and minds. When we ignore our own emotional, physical, and mental needs we open the door for health issues to occur. Effective coping with the demands of stress to increase self-love requires access to resources. Internal and external resources determine how adaptive one can be in stressful conditions and how we approach self-love. Internal resources are personal characteristics, skills, talents, abilities, etc. External resources stems from support outside of self such as family and friends, employment/income, access to healthcare/insurance, legal assistance, etc. Available internal and external resources helps to mold our self-talk.
Self-talk is an ongoing dialogue we have with ourselves based on one's perception and life experience. The words that we think and say have the power to create cells in our bodies of dis-ease or well-being. Its magical how much control we have on over our health through our mental attitude. We can literally speak life and positivity or death/negativity into our Universe. Negative mental attitude leads to stress, anxiety, depression, resentment, and fear which are all emotions that have the power to show up as physical symptoms of pain, digestive problems, increased blood pressure, etc. How we talk to ourselves in our own mind is the commentary of words we use to discuss and describe our very own unique life experiences that has the power to build us up or tear us down. How we perceive those experiences, whether positive or negative, shapes our mental attitude. For example, negative self-talk leads to negatively charged emotions, as well as maladaptive behaviors towards self and others. Negative self-talk creates a negative mental attitude which leads to negative judgements stemming from an experience of anxiety, fear, conflict, low self-esteem, poor self-worth and disenfranchisement. On the other hand, positive self-talk supports a positive mental attitude of positivity, trusting, supportive view of others, self-confidence and self-worth and an alliance with life. Assumptions and beliefs about one's self, others and life are evident in one's self-talk. For instance, doubt in one's very own God given talents an abilities may lead to negative thoughts like 'I can't do this or that', creates a layer of doubt and mistrust in our relationships with others. I've learned that the most important relationship in this life is one's relationship with self and it dictates our relationships with others. If we can not give ourselves the basics of positivity and care, it makes it hard to give it to other people whole-heartedly. Self-talk contains and reveals one's thoughts, which activates emotions and actions that shape our perception of reality. Self-talk evoke emotions and feelings to represent those experiences.
Emotions play an essential role in our thinking process, behavior, and outlook on the experience of life. They help us make decisions, achieve well-being, understand ourselves, as well as others. There was a time in my life when I felt that feeling emotions were a luxury, because I was so busy doing and going. I felt like I could not find time to deal with my own emotions, so I just repressed them and buried them deep down. I was completely unaware of the impact that emotions played in my attitude, behavior, and overall health. Emotional Intelligence is a key element in self-awareness, interpersonal relationships, and self-care. Many individuals with stress management problems are emotionally under skilled, lacking awareness of emotional states. Certain negative emotions we encounter causes biological changes in the mind and body such as the hormones cortisol and adrenaline to be released from our brain which create changes in the body and organs that readies the body to protect against outside attacks. Toxic or prolonged stress wreaks havoc on our immune system, as well as make the human body more susceptible to cardiovascular disease. Emotions are expressed, suppressed, or repressed. Emotions are expressed through behaviors ranging from assertiveness, aggressiveness, or passive aggressiveness. The saying that the soul does not carry a secret that the behavior does not reveal directly relates to our emotional health. The emotions that are repressed due to tragedy, devastation, or dysfunction all show up in our behavior one way or another whether we know it or not. Just as we take pride in washing our car and keeping it clean, the job is not done until we clean the inside as well. The same goes for our body and mind, we must tend to our emotional and mental health to match the exterior. It is imperative that we take time to tend to self-care.
Self-care is the act of engaging in activities that increase satisfaction of life and individual well-being. Self-love is the foundation of self-care and is often overlooked or under emphasized as it provides an individual with countless benefits. Self care includes both physical and emotional elements working side by side to improve overall quality of mental health and quality of life. Exercise, healthy diet, and other activities that promote active or passive relaxation are essential tools in self-care and psychological well-being.
Take a second today to reflect on self-care and how often we perform it. Lack of self-care opens the door to misunderstood emotions, feelings, and actions. This creates a gateway to stress which leads to illness and mental health problems due to lack of attention and care. Plant seeds of self-love to grow everyday in every way!
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Water is an important and essential fluid that makes up approximately 60% of the average human body. Maintaing proper water balance is detrimental for our survival. Hydration is the replenishing, balanced water intake that promotes normal functioning of our bodies, minds, and organs. On the other hand, dehydration is the lack of fluid in the body's systems that may cause abnormal functioning, including attention and memory. We will discuss the benefits of hydration, as well as the consequences of dehydration on the human body and brain, and lastly ways to maintain hydration for optimal mental, physical, and emotional functioning.
To Hydrate or Not Hydrate... is that really even a question?!
Hydration plays an important role in our health and well-being. When we maintain the body's fluid balance, we aid in the transportion of nutrients in the body, regulation of body temperature, as well as food digestion. Yes, (you who is reading this) there are direct ways to improve the internal functioning of our bodies and organs, although we may not be able to physically see it. Our bodies also utilize water to lubricate joints, protect organs, and flush out waste.
On the other hand, when we fail to maintain proper fluid balance our bodies will give us signs presented as symptoms in hopes that we hydrate soon! Dehydration is linked to loss of sodium and electrolytes, which can alter mental functioning. When the toxins are not flushed out through the hydration process, it will increase risk of developing pimples due to clogged pores and acne. Dehydration depletes and put strain on the body and mind. We are constantly losing fluids through sweating and urine, so have to diligent in maintaining hydration. The normal color of urine from a hydrated person is pale/light yellow. If the urine is a dark yellow/orange.... HYDRATE immediately!
How do I maintain hydration and proper fluid balance?
There are many differing opinions in how much to drink per day. Most health professionals can agree that a minimum of eight 8-oz glasses of water per day will meet majority of the populations need for hydration. Increasing water intake can help with constipation, decrease risk for kidney stones, as well as lower risk of bladder and colorectal cancer, according to some studies. Drinking more water may help with several health problems, as well as boost mood and energy!
Now let's toast to good health... with water, of course!
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- WildPhlower Wellness Management
The American Psychological Association defines stress as "any uncomfortable emotional experience accompanied by predictable biochemical, physiological and behavioral changes." Stress is how the brain and body respond to any demand. Demands, or stressors, can erupt in areas of our lives such as work, school , exercise, major life changes, or traumatic events. Minor stress affects people of all ages, races, and gender. All stress is not necessarily bad and negatively impact us. Stress can serve as a motivating factor to prepare or perform. For example, someone stressed out about passing at test, can use that stress to motivate them to study harder and achieve a good grade. On the other hand, severe and long-term stress can cause health problems. Stress increases blood pressure, as well as affects the heart and immune system due to the increase release of adrenaline, cortisol and norepinephrine. Increased levels of cortisol may lead to mood swings and anxiety, fatigue, irregular periods in women, muscle aches and pains, trouble sleeping, etc.
Luckily for us we have the power to help ease the stress in our lives, and decrease its affects on our body. One-third of all healing occurs without anyone doing anything other than a positive thought. A positive mental attitude is an essential tool to live a less stressful life. To manage the stress that arise from everyday life is observe how stress manifests in your life. Stress affects each individual in a unique way and we must first become aware of how it affects us individually. Understanding how stress affects us can help us to set goals and priorities to manage it. Small goals, such as a couple minutes of deep breathing, can help to decrease stress and to reduce adverse reactions of stress on the body and mind. For example, deep breathing can help to lower blood pressure by promoting blood flow, as well as release toxins. Full, deep inhalations followed by full, deep exhalations has astounding, positive affects on our health and wellness. Along with deep breathing, we can explore the option of incorporating other relaxing activities into our daily lives. Lastly, regular exercise is another way to decrease stress and its harmful affects on the body and mind. A twenty to thirty minute workout can help to boost mood and decrease stress. Walking, yoga, mediation, dancing, etc are all great ways to relax the body and mind.
Now take a deep breath and de-stress! Manage the stress, don't let it manage you...
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Peace & Blessings
Wellness Coach, CRT
Wellness Coach, Veteran, and Founder of WildPhlower Wellness Coaching Company. Encouraging Motivational Thinking & Speaking.